Last week Shawn Carson and I set a goal. We
were going to walk the parameter of Manhattan. We wanted to circumnavigate the island. We planned the route and set the date. It was going to be amazing! I was very excited at the thought of spending the whole day outside, it’s been
It also became a personal goal of mine to complete the circumnavigation. Up until this point the most I’ve ever walked ina while since I’ve done that.
a day was about 8 miles and that is with a HUGE break in the middle. And by huge I mean I taught a course in that span of time.
It was about 3 months ago when I decided to take up walking to and from our center in Midtown. It’s about 3.5 mile walk in one way. The few times it felt like it took forever! And I was hyper aware of each of the landmarks along the path. It was a walk with a confusing route through Central Park.
Within a week or so something very interesting happened, all of a sudden the walk that had lots of working parts beca
me a smooth journey, one big chunk of sensory information. I don’t even think about the route anymore.
This is how learning works. We learn the working parts and practice until the unconscious minds trance-forms it into one whole unit and it becomes effortless.
Anyway back to the circumnavigating…. I spent last week picturing in my mind how much fun we were going to have and how happy we would be when we reached the end of the journey. I imagi
ned the pride I would feel knowing I had walked 17 miles. It was important to me that I complete the journey.
The big day came, Circumnavigation Day (also know as Monday) and we started out at 9:20. We walked to Gracie Mansion (the mayor’s house) and then south along the East River. Along the way we saw the U.N., a fantastic spice shop, and a number of other interesting spots until we reached the South Street Sea Port.
From there we walked along Wall Street and then made the turn north along the Hudson River. The first half of the day was amazing. And I was ready for the second half to be even better.
When we reached the Intrepid, permanently docked at 44th street we turned east. We stopped to regroup somewhere oThat was until we reached 10th street. I was starting to feel exhaustion and was ready to be back home. It was getting colder and the sun had long set. I had two options at that point. I could dwell on how far we still had to go and possibly give up. OR I could focus on that image of us completing the walk and how happy I would be. I chose the second.
at 7:45 we were back at our starting point having walked 17 miles, eaten wonderful food, and visited some great places. It was truly a journey to remember! n 11th Ave and I realized that we were now the same distance from home as we would be on an average work day. The rest of a walk was going to be a familiar route. What’s more than that after walking 14 miles, what’s another 3.5 among friends. It’s amazing how quickly perspectives can shift!
Whether you are working with clients or just beginning your journey, resilience is the key to success. Set a goal, make an image in your mind of how you want to be. Put as many great emotions into it as you can and each time that little voice of doubt tries to raise it’s ugly head, pull out that outstanding image of who you are becoming and step into that image for a moment, feeling those good feelings. Next step back out and let that image guide you in the right direction.
© Jess Marion 2013
In (H)NLP we look at change work as being a process that occurs in the space between the coach and the client. We can think of this as a blended metaphoric space. The client more often than not will unconsciously place things around themselves in this space. They will place memories, the problem, and their outcomes around themselves. The client may physically do this through hand gestures or they may be a bit more subtle and do it through eye movements or body shifts.
If I were to ask you right now to point to your past, would it be to your left, behind you, or below your feet? Maybe even to your right? How about your future, is it to your right, in front of you, or above you?
The space around the client is the creative landscape their unconscious mind is using to build their reality.
This is why we prefer to not sit directly in front of the client. When a client has a problem it tends to be in front of them and we certainly don’t want that superimposed onto us! Instead try sitting slightly off to your client’s right. For most people in the western world this will be connected to their future. What a nice unconscious message! You and all of the positive change you represent is in your client’s immediate future.
You can also use your client’s space to unconsciously suggest change. Try this, next time you’re with a client and want to transition them from the problem state to the outcome state, use your right hand and brush through the metaphoric landscape from your left to your right. This unconsciously communicates the problem is now moved into the client’s past.
When you want the client to access an outcome state, gesture with your left hand up to your left (client’s right) above eye level. Hold your palm open and invite the client to make an image of how they want to be different. This suggests that they access imagination.
Once they have a positive picture (remembering you aren’t interested in what they don’t want, but what they do want) you can very gently push that image into them with a downward gesture with that left hand.
Of course there are many more things you can do with metaphoric space. Enjoy engaging with that space. You may be surprised just how powerful it can be to use it!
© Jess Marion 2013
Join Jess and Shawn in Central Park. We’ll be exploring the power of language and importance of sorting for difference.
A year ago we began a series of NLP videos touring around some of our favorite spots in NYC. Join the tour and have some NLP fun with us!
Discover a new and creative approach to the Fast Phobia Cure. In this three part demo Shawn explains and demonstrates a new way of creating dissociation.
Today for your NLP viewing enjoyment we have a demo of reimprinting from our NLP Practitioner training. This is not a classic reimprint as the situation occurred when the volunteer was an adult. You will see the steps as well as how important state elicitation is. If you pay attention you will spot a number of difference instances the volunteer goes into trance. All change happens in trance. It doesn’t have to be induced. We can allow it to develop spontaneously in our clients.